How do you handle this? We are happy to give you some tips!
Remember that (in the case of a young person) your worlds of experience can be miles apart (not to mention puberty). Where you oversee the negative consequences in the long term and have a sense of health, the young person is much more concerned with the here and now. If you want to be well prepared, it is wise to bring your knowledge about resources or gaming up to date. Also, choose a suitable time for the conversation. Take, for example, current affairs. And of course: listen to each other! The moment emotions run high, stop the conversation and pick it up again later.
If, after reading these tips, you would like to spar with a prevention worker live, by telephone or by email, this is of course possible. On our Moti overview map you will find exactly where a prevention department is located in your area. You can find this on our contact page.
What if your client, close relative or family member indicates that he is not yet ready for a Moti4 or Moti55 interview? That is of course also a possibility. Perhaps the person in question does not experience a problem at that moment and there is therefore no motivation for change. Sometimes they indicate that it is also a bit crazy to talk to a strange person about something like your alcohol use.
What can you do in this case?
Request a free consultation with one of our Moti4 or Moti55 employees. You can always talk about alcohol use or parenting and gaming to give yourself some more handles! Sometimes there is still a conversation with your child, family member or client, because the prevention worker has already come into the picture. The prevention workers are also active in secondary education or in social work in your neighbourhood. It is very well possible that the Moti employee has already given information. In this way, the care coordinator and/or mentor can also be consulted about deploying Moti4 or Moti55.
During an information market at school, I asked the prevention worker about individual offers for a number of my students who smoke weed. I just wasn't sure how I would motivate the students for a preventive interview. The prevention worker then gave a tailor-made guest lesson to make the subject negotiable. The interest was great and many myths surrounding weed were debunked. The students I also had in mind for an individual trajectory reported to the prevention worker after class to discuss further separately! Moti4 is tailor-made and knows how to reach the young person easily!
Every time that battle around our son's gaming. Time and again we found ourselves in the circle of not wanting to come to the table, not wanting to start homework, to changing the Wifi codes to be able to interrupt online gaming. Moti4 has helped us in setting adequate rules. First the PC went away from the bedroom, we went from punishing by taking away gaming to a structure of rewarding gaming and agreeing on a fixed time to eat. A lot of stress has been removed by more clarity and Stan now even cleans up the dishwasher after dinner instead of disappearing straight back into his bedroom.